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8 ways to deal with a boss you don’t get along with

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Think about your boss. If the image of your superior doesn’t automatically anger and frustrate you, consider yourself lucky. If you even like your boss, don’t ever take that job for granted. Not every boss in your career will see eye to eye with you on work issues, and some might have a management style that clashes with your personality. You may even encounter a few that are downright abusive. If you’re stuck in this position, it doesn’t mean you need to start looking for a new job. Just try some of these tips for dealing with a difficult boss no matter where you work. You’ll build some character, learn some new people skills, and be able to enjoy your job more.

Offer a solution
There are all kinds of bad bosses out there, whether they micromanage, don’t communicate effectively, or bully their employees. When you’ve identified what it is about your boss that really gets under your skin, think of a solution you can offer to make your interactions run more smoothly. It will come off as a constructive suggestion rather than a criticism. Tell them you’d like to see if you’re more efficient when they only check in on you once a day, ask if they’d consider writing weekly email updates about your project, or come up with a feasible, positive solution to your specific problem. Bullying can be harder to resolve, but addressing the problem with specific activities that offend you is the first step in the right direction.

Don’t get emotional
The worst reaction to your boss’ frustrating behaviors is to lose your cool. No matter the situation, it’s important to stay professional and not let your emotions get the best of you. If you can feel yourself getting worked up, take a break before you address the issue. Walk around, get some air, and make sure you rein your emotions back in before talking to your boss. Take the time to collect yourself if you’re meeting one-on-one with your boss; even excuse yourself briefly if you need to. This will look much better than losing your temper, getting defensive, or sobbing. You want your boss to take your feedback seriously, and it’ll be easier for him to discount your opinions if he can claim you’re acting irrationally.

Evaluate yourself
It’s easy to get wrapped up in all the annoying things your boss is doing, but don’t forget to consider the role you play in the conflict. Consider how you handle situations and whether your boss is responding to things you’re doing. Are you consistently missing deadlines? Maybe that’s why he’s micromanaging you. Have you been interrupting others in brainstorming meetings? That could be discouraging him from choosing your ideas. At the very least, evaluating your job performance and interactions with the boss and other co-workers will reaffirm your position and possibly help you acknowledge some areas you can improve upon, an important tool if you and your boss try to compromise on an issue.

Make note of positive interactions
When you’re frustrated, your negative feelings can spiral out of control if you don’t keep them in check. What starts as mild annoyance can morph into full-blown hatred if you’re not careful. Make sure, even just for the sake of your own mental health, that you mentally acknowledge the positive things your boss does. Even small things can go a long way toward shaping a more neutral opinion of him, making it easier to deal with him on a daily basis. And if your boss has made an attempt to fix something that you’ve mentioned, don’t hesitate to tell him how much you appreciate it.

Take notes on negative behaviors
This is an especially important thing to do if you’ve got a bully for a boss. When you think of each offensive event individually, you might think you’re being petty and making a big deal out of nothing, but when you’ve kept track of all the occurrences over a week or month, you’ll see the larger trend of unacceptable behavior. This will make it easier to quantify your issues to your boss, and explain the scope of the problem if you have to take it to human resources. If you’re dealing with a boss who isn’t abusive, but just has management issues, keeping a log of certain activities can make it easier to show the boss what you’d like to see change.

Don’t go over your boss’ head
At least not immediately. If you take your beef with your boss to her supervisor, things are not going to be resolved between the two of you. Your boss may get a slap on the wrist or suggestions for better management, but she will undoubtedly resent you for hating on her in front of her boss. Your first step should always be to discuss the problems with your boss directly. If things don’t improve after several discussions with your boss and the issues are serious, such as abusive, bullying behavior, you can set up a meeting with the appropriate higher-up or HR. If you’ve been documenting the negative interactions and steps you’ve taken to correct it (see above), you’ll feel more justified in taking it up the chain of command.

Find a mentor in the company
Choosing a supervisor in your company that you trust and admire won’t only be good for advancing your career, but can also give you a go-to advisor for your boss issues. Don’t unload every personal problem onto your mentor like you would a friend, but do ask for professional advice on how best to handle the situation. You’ll get practical advice from a successful person in your field and have someone in your corner when you have to make hard decisions or if you try to make a lateral move in your company.

Move on
Okay, we know we said you weren’t going to have to quit your job because of your boss problems, but there are times when it’s just your best option. If the stress and frustration carries over into your personal life, the job may not be worth it. If your boss won’t stop insulting and bullying you no matter how many times you ask him to stop, it’s time to move on. But don’t use this opportunity to let him know how you feel. It’s essential to part on good terms (or as close to good as you can at this point). Be gracious and professional, and go out and find a boss who will appreciate what you have to offer.

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Star Power: Leading Ladies Awarded

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Longview Regional Medical Center’s Women’s Advisory Council hosted its 20th Anniversary of Stars Over Longview. The annual awards ceremony and luncheon which honors 12 women in the community for their dedication and commitment to various community endeavors was a packed house with 800 plus attendees.

Longview’s own Brandon Maxwell, Speaker, American Fashion Designer, Television Personality, Director and Photographer keynoted the event. And he had the crowd roaring with laughter thanks to Libby Bryson’s questions. The conversation style on the stage with Ms. Bryson added a new flavor to the event. Maxwell was very forthcoming, a realist, credited people in his life who contributed in some fashion or another to his success.

Maxwell was not pretentious about his success. He narrated how he was last in his class mentioning Aliceson Howell, his counselor at the time. “Aliceson held my hand and said,” ‘You are going to college,’ Maxwell told his audience. His career’s journey started from St. Edwards University in Austin to New York and around the globe. It is important to note, Maxwell finished college on the Dean’s list. According to Maxwell, he has worked incessantly for 10 years straight and it eventually paid off for this young 35-year-old who was the least likely to succeed to this magnitude.

Despite his success, Maxwell is a pragmatist who ardently believes in education and very hard work. “I am driven to making people look their best,” he said. And some of his clients include First Lady Michelle Obama, media mogul Oprah Winfrey, Megan Markle, Jane Fonda, Blake Lively, Queen Rania of Jordan and Tiffany Haddish.

A few take-aways from his conversation with Bryson are as follows:

· He helps people take their futures into their own hands

· He works with young people who did not go to the best schools

· He loves the women in his life equally-no -one is better than the other

· Longview is the best place in the world

· Social media is like a reality television show

· Hard work really matters

· Be yourself. Don’t be a fake

· Giving back is always fashionable

· Be careful, there are people watching you on social media

His advice to young people is on point, “Turn off your social media, hard work really matters,” he said. “There is this idea that getting a lot of like is success. Not true. Hard work is what brings success.”

The 2020 Stars over Longview:

Mica Sterling with CEO Robertson
Mary Greenwaldt with CEO Robertson
Amber Hobbs with CEO Robertson
Carolyn Northcutt
Suma Jayakar
Breneda Mathis
Melanie Northcutt-Crocker
Karen Partee
Erik Rader with CEO Robertson
Kelly Overby with CEO Robertson
Caryn Pepper with CEO Robertson
Gay Kirkland with CEO Robertson
Jennifer Teague Jackson with CEO Robertson
Mary Lou Stuckey with CEO Robertson
Chandalyn Lewis Jenkins with CEO Robertson
Dr. Darla Baggett with CEO Robertson
Dr. Melissa Sutton with CEO Robertson